In fact, they might truly believe that their beatific behavior will inspire other people to be better: to behave with more integrity and kindness, etc. They may not necessarily realize that they’re alienating other people, acting the way they do. Possibly because they’ve had to deal with a lot of exceptionally poor behavior in their lives and thus try to elevate themselves above all the awful things they’ve experienced. They’ll always find some flaw in a person’s life choices to belittle or criticize, and will generally do so with immense condescension. Many of their conversations will begin with statements like, “No judging, but…” followed by something that’s incredibly judgmental. They’ve convinced themselves that they’re morally superior to just about everyone around them. No matter what you say or do, you’ll never be as righteous, or moral, or ethical, or socially progressive as they are. Oh, you’re vegan now? They’re a level 5, organic, raw vegan. But they’re vegan, because they actually care about animals and don’t eat ANYTHING that comes from them. They tend to walk around in self-righteous bubbles, and decry anything that falls below their own choices or actions. These people will try to one-up you no matter what you do. If you revolve your entire existence around another, who will you be when they’re no longer in your life? It can be really uncomfortable for others to witness. Their entire lives are dedicated to their partner, so that said partner makes them feel useful and validated in turn.
They don’t even have their own hobbies or interests anymore.īasically, they’ve adapted themselves to be this other person’s perfect accessory, and it’s both annoying and creepy as all hell.Ī lot of insecure, codependent people are like this, especially if they’re in relationships with narcissists. If you compliment their outfit, they respond by letting you know that their partner picked it out for them.Įvery social media post, every conversation, revolves entirely around their partner/spouse, and they don’t seem to have any personality other than being someone’s other half. You ask your friend what they’re making for dinner, and they tell you that they’re making their partner’s favorite. “I Have No Personality Outside Of My Relationship”